The Four Agreements Can just four agreements change your life? Are you interested in a life filled with love and happiness? Sure, who isn’t? Does the economy have you down? Are you sad this season of Girls is over? I know, I know, me too…life can be tough. Listen up, it’s time for an oldie but goodie. I read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz years ago and found it extremely enlightening. As I was de-cluttering my bookshelf (thanks to the inspiration of Musings From Melody), I came across my old copy and thought it was worth another read.

Then I decided to just download it from iTunes because it’s one of those books you want to listen to over and over again. I do this with The War of Art by Steven Pressfield, which has too many inspiring nuggets to take in all at once. These are books that never really get old, you know the kind, each time you read (or hear) it you learn something new.  Great for the spiritual and or creative tune-ups we seem to so desperately need sometimes.


Harmony of opinion, action, or character; an arrangement as to a course of action.

Yes, Oprah has discussed The Four Agreements, so some of you may be familiar with them and how practicing them in your daily life can be life changing. If you are, keep reading because you probably need a refresher like me. Author Don Miguel Ruiz has an inspiring story of neurosurgeon turned Shaman following a near-death car accident which lead him back to his Toltec roots.

Toltecs - The Four Agreements Who the heck are the Toltecs? Glad you asked. The Toltecs were an ancient group of scientists and artists formed to explore and preserve the practices and spiritual knowledge of the ancient ones. While it’s not a religion, but a way of life that embraces spirit and honors all the spiritual masters who have taught on the earth. Toltec wisdom arises from the same essential unity of truth as other sacred esoteric traditions that are found all over the world.

The Aztecs also saw the Toltecs as their own predecessors whom they glorified in order to be able to legitimize their own structures of power by claiming royal descent from Toltec lineages. Official enough for you? OK, let’s move on…we have Agreements to discuss! Are you ready for some personal freedom? Are you a Spiritual Warrior? YES. YOU. ARE.

The Four Agreements are:

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Sounds good, right? Accepting these agreements is quite simple, but actually living in them is a HUGE challenge. Simple yet difficult. Good and evil. Black and white. Dark and light. We live in a world of two extremes. We’re all so busy in the rat race of life, running here and there. Manipulating to get what we want, many times at an unconscious level. If awareness is so important, how do we become aware? Read books like The Four Agreements.

Don’t let the daily challenges of life keep you away from your quest for spiritual growth (which I think we all have, whether we know it or not). I could go into much more detail about this book but I really want YOU to get the book and embrace it in its entirety. As a post on Project Dre LA suggests, set your intention now. For the day, the weekend, the year; then make it happen.

peter-coyoteREADING CHALLENGE: The Four Agreements

–          It’s a short book so dedicate 2-3 hours to read it or listen to it (Peter Coyote narrates it and does a great job), it’s much more impactful to do this in one sitting. Quit your whining, you know you’d spend this amount of time or more watching reality TV shows in one sitting.

–          Once complete, write out the Agreements and put them somewhere you will see them when you wake up and start your day:

  • Be Impeccable With Your Words
  • Don’t Take Anything Personally
  • Don’t Make Assumptions
  • Always Do Your Best

I hope you enjoy this read as much as I did. Don’t be shy, tell us what you think…let your Warrior free! Or just leave a comment below…

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